If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you have your answer right there. You’re asking yourself the wrong questions. Instead of asking “why aren’t I successful,” you should be asking, “why do I want to be successful?” The difference between the two questions is obvious. With the first question, you’re seeking knowledge that you probably already have but just don’t want to face. Most folks who are unsuccessful know why deep down, they just don’t want to correct it. With the second question, you’re seeking motivation to become the successful individual you want to be.
When seeking the motivation to become successful, the larger the “why” you can give yourself the better. The bigger the why, the more juice you’ll be able to squeeze out of your motivation as time goes on. So how to decide on the perfect “why?” Well, there are two different types of why’s you can motivate yourself with: self-oriented why’s and other-other oriented why’s.
A self-oriented why would consist of something like the desire to never live in poverty again, or to drive a better car and live in a bigger house? An other-oriented why would consist of a desire to send your kids to college or to spend more time with your family. Typically, folks will start with a self-oriented why, though other-oriented why’s typically offer stronger and longer lasting motivation. I can tell you from personal experience that it is extremely difficult to attain success without a strong motivation. If you do not have a strong enough why, motivation will be hard to sustain throughout your journey.
The main thing to remember when selecting a motivation is to be honest with yourself. If you are not honest with yourself, then your motivation will be false and will surely not last long enough for you to reach your goal. As long as you are honest with yourself and remain positive, you should be strong enough to overcome any obstacles you may face.
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